He's the Man!

I don’t know about you, but it’s very easy for me to picture the “perfect” man.  He’d look something like this (that smile!)…

 

Or this (those brown eyes!)….

 

Or this (let’s take a moment to just appreciate Mr. Jackman)…

 

Whew…is it hot in here or is it just me?

Now that I’ve thoroughly distracted you with the eye candy above…it’s time to get to the point.

There is NO perfect man!!!!!  Even the beautiful ones have their flaws just like we do.
I grew up in a house with three men…my daddy and my two younger brothers.  Nothing will teach you more about men than having brothers!  There isn’t much a man can say or do now that surprises me because I think I’ve seen or heard it all over the years.  Thanks, Seth and Jacob!

It’s so easy to get caught up in our expectations of the “perfect” guy that we often forget that reality exists.  Even though appearances are nice, they’re just the icing on the cake.  Have you ever been to a bakery and admired the beautiful displays they have?  Yeah, those aren’t real (I did not learn this until a few years when I was watching one of my favorite shows, Amazing Wedding Cakes!).  They’re just Styrofoam with icing on top.  WHAT?!
Physical appearances are just the same…pretty icing does not make up for Styrofoam on the inside!  BLEH!  I don’t know about you, but I want the yummiest, most amazing cake on the inside!

 

Girl, be glad that our heavenly Father is doing us a favor by saving us for the SPECIAL man!  How awesome is it going to be when you find him?

 

This literally gives me the chills!  This is what I want…and it’s going to be so worth it.   So until then…

 

You Already Have the Most Amazing Love Story...

As I was sitting in church this morning listening to my wonderful pastor preach about God’s love, I felt a peace settle over me because I realized that even if I never find love here on Earth, I’ve already got the greatest love story ever.
I’ve been a follower of Christ since I was twelve years old.  I was raised in church from the time I was born, and my parents set a great example of what it means to be a Christian.  Now, that doesn’t mean that I’ve lived my life perfectly (because the good Lord knows I’m one of the most imperfect people out there).  Throughout the trials and tribulations in my life, I’ve always felt peace when I’ve called upon God.  His unwavering and unconditional love always mystifies and uplifts me more than anything else in this world.
Pastor Joel talked about how we can’t truly love anyone else until we understand God’s love for us.  I agree with this 100%.  I believe that in order to have love with another human being, we must first have that relationship established with God.

 

 

Over the years, I’ve seen many folks get married, and I’ve been so blessed to be part of their happiest memories.  Unfortunately, not all of those marriages have worked.  There are always a million different reasons why a relationship ends.  One common thread I’ve noticed with some of the folks I’m closest to is that they entered into their marriage because they were looking for someone to fill some kind of void.  I’ve heard people say, “If I can just get married, then I’ll finally be happy.”  Sadly, marriage is not a remedy for an unhappy life.

I found this quote on Pinterest some time ago, and I fall more in love with it every time I see it.  As single people, we need to learn that we have to first love God and ourselves before we can ever hope to love someone else.

I don’t know about you, but I’d really love for my future husband to be so in love with God and respect himself.  That’s the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and be a father to my children.  God knows who he is and God knows when it will happen.  Until then, I’m going to love God and myself with all my heart so I can be the best wife for that man.

 

Oh my Gosh! You're 30 and Still Single?!

If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone say this, I’d have enough money to buy that super cute dress I saw on Pinterest the other day!

I remember back in my college years (I graduated in 2006, by the way) that I’d be married with at least one kid by the time I turned 30.  Well, 30 is knocking on my door and will be here April 26th!   And, I’m no where near being married, let alone having a child.  (Yes, I was raised with the belief that you should be married when you have kids.)  So, what’s wrong with me?

My answer would be…NOTHING!  I live a perfectly normal life.  I’m an elementary school teacher, I own my own house and car, and I have a close group of friends and family who I love dearly.  I’ve also never had a serious relationship that’s lasted longer than three months.
Most people ask me, “Why?  You’re pretty, smart, funny…why are you still single?”
The short answer is that I REFUSE to settle.  God hasn’t shown me the man I’m meant to marry (at least I don’t think I know him right now).  I spent a majority of my twenties thinking that there was something fundamentally wrong with me.  I’ve cried many tears and eaten my way through many pints of ice cream, but it hit me one day last year that there isn’t anything wrong with me.  I’m by no means perfect, believe me.  But, when it comes down to it, I’m still single because I’ve chosen to follow God and let Him lead my path.
This blog will serve as a way to (hopefully) inspire other single ladies (and men!) to embrace the single life and realize that God has a plan for you that is so much bigger and better than you could ever imagine.